Have you ever seen a twitter thread (or, in this case, two!) that so perfectly expressed everything you’d felt over months and months of persistent harassment? With all credit to @blackblobyellowcone, who is clearly amazing and completely gets it– not just why us women write and read the erotica that we do, but the history behind the censorship we, as a gender, have experienced. Bravo.
Just Anti Things: you’re not a real survivor if you do things I don’t like
And that right there is reason folks need stay away from antis. Imagine being so dense you decide who’s a REAL survivor soley based on how one copes using fiction
Let me guess they took AP psychology in highschool so clearly they know what’s “good” for folks. what a joke
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random strangers on the internet do not know more than your therapist. this has been a PSA
after reading chapter 46 i got confused and curious of what kind of relationship the uncle had with bum and how actually the uncle felt about him
at first i thought bum was to the uncle the child of his ex-girlfriend and brother whom he hated a lot cuz both of them sort of betrayed him when they got together and now he have to take care of their child and since he sees him as the “product” of his father’s sins or whatever he put his anger for those past years on him and thats why he was always abusive to him.
and because bum (physically) looks a lot like his mom he begun imagining having sex with her by raping him.
so I thought bum was just a person who he hated but is forced to take care of and was taking advantages of that by raping him
but he actually was kind to him or wanted to be kind to him at some points…
what does this mean? does he sometimes sees him as a son? and he switches between being kind and cruel depending on his mood like sangwoo?
but he says stuff to him like….
he says stuff that lovers or ex-lovers would usually say to each other. so I assume he somehow is exchanging bum’s mom with bum not just sexually but completely cuz he couldn’t forget about her. he wants to believe that eunjoo (bum) wants to be with him and doesn’t want to left him for someone else… and he also wants to believe that bum was enjoying it when he forces himself on him cuz he actually wants him in that way too (or that what rapests do to justify them selfs)
so when he thought bum was being with someone else now and is actually rebellious to him he said these stuff…
i think bum was an important person in the uncle’s life and thats why he came all the way to sangwoo’s house ( that doesn’t mean he liked him or cared about him) he needed him to fill in the gab that eunjoo made when she left him and bum was the victim to all of this.
I just waned to share my thoughts and i would like to hear opinions about this topic
I rarely add my two cents into things but I feel the uncle was kinder to Bum whdn bum was younger because he didnt look like his mother quite yet. He didnt see his ex just a kid. It also is implied that the uncle didnt use to live with the grandma, but rather on his own. That is why he and Bum didnt see to know each other in the flashback, Bum was living with his grandma.
It seems the uncle moved in with them both later on, possibly after being laid off or demoted. It is implied his uncle is a drinker, possibly another reason he moved in. That likely alcoholism mixed with Bum being older likely triggered the start of the abuse an later sexual abuse towards Bum.
Is it just me or Bum lied to Sangwoo? When he was opening up about his self harm and telling him he grew up with his grandparents, he said “I live with my uncle now”.
But he doesn’t?
When Sangwoo goes to Bum’s apartment to collect a bunch of his stuff it’s clear that he lives on his own, since he has stopped paying the rent and everything is messy (and there are his sex toys in the bathroom), so obviously no one else lives there.
It doesn’t make sense for the uncle to tell him “let’s go home”
Because they! Don’t! Live! Together!
Bum has his own (crappy and shabby) apartment!
This is just helping me to convince myself even more that he is hallucinating (read my previous theory where I talk about it if you want!)
Alright bye 🙂
What has been said in the notes makes me wonder: what if his uncle blackmailed him and let him live alone in exchange of more abuse and rape? Bum doesn’t work so he wouldn’t have the money to pay all the monthly bills of his apartment … If that’s the case, it would also make sense for his uncle to ask him if he was selling his body to his ‘new owner’ in exchange of living in Sangwoo’s house, since Bum must have not enough money of his own to live in complete independence.
I think what @koulej said was right since in this panel, it doesn’t look like their house when bum used to live when he was a child, this place look like Bum’s shabby apartment where he lives alone, but his uncle repeatedly came there to rape him
just to fulfill his disgusting desire
and as an exchange for paying his university fees??
his uncle might made him drunk since we can see some wain bottles in his room, it doesn’t make any sense that Bum bought the wain by his own will, since he told Sangwoo that he never drink, but his uncle made him. or maybe not, since he said his uncle made him drunk in HIS room, not his. But who knows?
True!! 😮 ^^^
About the getting drunk thing, maybe Bum just referred to the first time uncle made him drink alcohol, which might have happened in his room back when they were still living together. What we see in the panels you posted might have happened later when he was living alone and his uncle visited him with bad intentions to ‘make him gain that money’. Maybe he brought some alcohol every time he visited.
Nasty… Urgh. Now, I truly understand why you don’t ever want to see your uncle, Bum. 😦 It’s make me wonder, if his uncle want to rape Bum, why do he want to make bum living alone? I think it’ll not cause any problem if he doing it at home and let bum keep living with his grandma?
All the reason I can think of is, his grandma might asking him to send Bum to the college, but he make bum living separately with his grandma so he can do all the nasty things to bum, without his grandma ever know + for paying his university fees. two birds in one stone? “oh do you want me to waste my money on your fucking college for filthy brat like you? Pay it with your body first”
AND THAT’S SO DISGUSTING!
Huh, for some reason I hadn’t considered that the uncle was paying for the apartment and Bum’s college. But of course. How else would Bum pay for it? That implies it was a pretty regular thing.
I gave a presentation about victim-blaming and how much of a problem it truly is. And someone had the audacity to write, “I’m not convinced it’s a problem.”
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