when fiona apple said there’s no hope for women she really knew
The other issue with this that is talked about in the article is that it can be used to make fake revenge porn of people, as well as fake videos of someone doing/saying something.
we talk a lot around here about living in the worst possible cyberpunk dystopia but this extraordinarily creepy and dangerous technology being pioneered by reddit users to make porn is beyond parody
it’s so hilarious to me that straight women think they are so irresistible to us gay women that we are just waiting to pounce on them as soon as we’re in the same space like nah we can smell your homophobia from miles away you fucking gremlins
Sadly, girls’ trauma is more likely to be missed than that of boys. In children younger than about 11, boys tend to act out and behave badly if they are unhappy – so their trauma is noticed and (hopefully) addressed.Girls tend to react by becoming “people pleasers”. It’s as if they see trauma as a punishment, and hope that they can avoid it by being “good”. They will talk less, work harder, always be springing up ready to help anyone with anything at the slightest indication they may want it. They watch the emotional states of adults like a hawk and soothe, placate and offer practical help at the slightest sign of anger or displeasure. As this is the kind of behavior encouraged in girls, no one takes any notice until it’s too late.
i hate when the teacher’s like “write about a bad time in your life” like i ain’t tryna get a social worker up my ass, thanks tho fam
This ain’t no joke I had to write a essay about what your scared of so I did it (I was scared of growing up and where my life was going) it was great got a 100 but then I got sent to councilors office and was sent to therapy cause they thought I was suicidal and on the verge of breaking…Apparently they ment like spiders or some shit…
Also like, not everyone finds that at all useful or cathartic.
“Write about some difficulty you’ve experienced personally.” “Aight fam let me just break down into tears and skip the rest of my classes.”
Yes! I had a psych professor ask us to discuss outloud the hardest thing that ever happened to us literally two days ago and I said “you realize the position you’re putting us in? I feel obligated to lie to not only save my peers the awkwardness but also because I will find no relief in answering honestly but rather anxiety. The hardest thing in my life is having people repeatedly tell me I should find some sort of catharsis in reliving my trauma so someone else can feel pity for me!”
The whole class backed me up because they didn’t want to either! Those kind of exercises are only helpful for people who don’t have any real past/current issues– which is no one btw.
On par with this are those fucking self-assessments where they want to to be optimistic and positive about the future. You’re sitting there drowning in college stress and anxiety so bad you can’t look another human in the eye, fighting depression so that you can eventually achieve a piece of paper that might get you a better job if the economy doesn’t tank itself (guess what, it did), and the most optimistic thing you can think of is that the class ends in 20 minutes.
There’s a WIRED article that explains the history behind this practice.
Basically, this guy named Jeffrey Mitchell had a traumatic experience, then after months of PTSD, he told a confidant about the event that traumatized him. Retelling the event to a confidant was so cathartic for Mitchell that his PTSD went away after. He did a bunch of research to see if his personal experience of catharsis and relief could be replicated in other people suffering from PTSD. Years later he published a paper proposing a formalized psychiatric treatment revolving around this idea that expressing a traumatic experience helps relieve it. The paper was so influential that the whole psychiatric community adopted “critical incident stress debriefing” (CISD) as a standard treatment for PTSD.
Unfortunately … it’s bullshit.
Not only does the CISD treatment program Mitchell came up with not help the majority of patients who try it, but it actually makes PTSD worse in the majority of patients who try it.
The WIRED article explains why:
CISD misapprehends how memory works…. Once a memory is formed, we assume that it will stay the same. This, in fact, is why we trust our recollections. They feel like indelible portraits of the past.
None of this is true. In the past decade, scientists have come to realize that our memories are not inert packets of data and they don’t remain constant.
…the very act of remembering changes the memory itself. New research is showing that every time we recall an event, the structure of that memory in the brain is altered in light of the present moment, warped by our current feelings and knowledge.
Basically, Mitchell waited until he had some emotional distance before trying to recall the memory, and he had full control of the situation. It was fully his decision. Nobody was pressuring him to talk about it. So he felt safe. Thinking about the memory from a place of safety allowed his brain to re-contextualize the memory as harmless.
Conversely, pressuring a patient to recall a traumatic memory, particularly when it’s still fresh in their minds, makes the patient feel very unsafe. Recalling a bad memory in this unsafe context only serves to re-traumatize the patient.
If you think this is sad and crazy, go look up other BLM activists who’ve died in the last 5 years or so. You’ll notice that quite a few of them have something in common. I’ll wait.
I feel like a lot of the really cool things, in terms of social commentary, that Koogi is doing with Killing Stalking go unnoticed because everybody’s focused on what in my opinion are kind of trivial in a Korean context. And one of those cool things she does has to do with abuse. (Wait what?! I thought Koogi’s depiction of abuse was completely and irrevocably ~problematic~!!!)
A little backstory here—domestic abuse, particularly against women, is frighteningly common in Korea. Women teach their daughters “safe breakup techniques” (e.g., breaking up in a public place rather than a private one). A recent study showed that almost 80% of Korean men have abused a romantic partner in some way, with many of them not even recognizing their behavior as abuse. Actually, it was only just recently (2013) that the Korean Supreme Court ruled that a man could be legally prosecuted for raping his wife! Furthermore, in Korea, more women than men are killed due to violence, which is unusual for a developed nation.
All of that said, depictions of domestic abuse are not as common in Korean media as in American media. It’s hush-hush, a We Don’t Talk About That kind of topic. To illustrate, when I was studying abroad in Korea, flyers for a feminist seminar on sexual abuse were posted on the inside of bathroom stall doors and did not specify the exact time or place. For the location, it literally said (in Korean), “Somewhere in [building].” You had to text a number to get that information (I assume—I did not try it because my Korean isn’t that good), and all of this was probably so they wouldn’t get harassed or shut down. Just for talking about sexual violence.
But Koogi talks about it in Killing Stalking, in a strikingly fearless way.
She shows the ugly reality of how Sangwoo’s father treated him and his mother. She shows, in no ambiguous or delicate terms, Sangwoo’s father raping his mother—in a country where many people believe that “marital rape” is an oxymoron. She shows how a seemingly “perfect man” (attractive, smart, friendly) and still twisted, harmful, and unforgivable. She shows that men can be raped, just as women can. (Korean law defines nonconsensual anal penetration as “pseudo-rape.”) And she shows, in a way that arouses anger and dread in her readers, how domestic abuse can go ignored (or even possibly aided) by older family members for the sake of pride, as Bum’s grandmother did when Bum’s uncle was abusing him.
Sangwoo insists he is not like his father, but Koogi literally draws parallels between specific things he’s done to Bum and specific things his father did to his mother. She sends the implicit message (because that’s what good writing is, folks) that an abusive homosexual relationship and an abusive heterosexual relationship are fundamentally the same thing.
That’s not all I admire about the series, but this is a really big thing that I haven’t noticed people talking about. Anyway…
Yes, Killing Stalking is disturbing. Yes, there is a lack of consent in many of the sexual situations depicted. Yes, the whole thing makes you a little sick, with its dark, dull color scheme and graphic violence and the character’s freaky expressions. But it also might be something Korea really, really needs right now.
THIS
It’s almost as if cultural context matters or something
I just love Subway Sandwiches, anyone else huge fans too? Apparently I’m odd according to people for choosing it over other sandwich places, I think its the sweet onion sauce. I just love it!
Pita pit is a close second (even if its pitas and not sandwiches)
The only place I would pick over Subway is Jimmy John’s, but I’ve normally never been close to one 😭
Jimmy Johns is good but they’re really over priced here I’ve noticed. A foot long is nearly 18 dollars for the veggie! Which is sad, back in my home state they were the same price.
Whattttt and I thought subway was overpriced but you’re right lol. I just think they’re like crack. I once was day drinking up in Ohio and ate two Footlongs about 4 hours apart
I eat subway like waaaaaay too often. I don’t even like it that much, but my bestie grabs us lunch often and that’s his go to. I’m so much more into JJ but yea @themanicnami I think that JJ is really over priced here.
It so is, last time I went it was 22 dollars for the ham sandwich that where I grew up was only 12. its like ten dollars more! Its good but I can’t afford that often
I just love Subway Sandwiches, anyone else huge fans too? Apparently I’m odd according to people for choosing it over other sandwich places, I think its the sweet onion sauce. I just love it!
Pita pit is a close second (even if its pitas and not sandwiches)
The only place I would pick over Subway is Jimmy John’s, but I’ve normally never been close to one 😭
Jimmy Johns is good but they’re really over priced here I’ve noticed. A foot long is nearly 18 dollars for the veggie! Which is sad, back in my home state they were the same price.
Whattttt and I thought subway was overpriced but you’re right lol. I just think they’re like crack. I once was day drinking up in Ohio and ate two Footlongs about 4 hours apart
Yeah back in Idaho they are both about the same of around 10-12 dollars give or take on what you’re putting on them (if you’re getting the meal of course). but here Jimmy Johns is just so expensive! Its sad because I love their veggie sandwich
No judgement here, I use to in high school eat two footlongs every saturday >->
I just love Subway Sandwiches, anyone else huge fans too? Apparently I’m odd according to people for choosing it over other sandwich places, I think its the sweet onion sauce. I just love it!
Pita pit is a close second (even if its pitas and not sandwiches)
The only place I would pick over Subway is Jimmy John’s, but I’ve normally never been close to one 😭
Y’all mothafuckas need quiznos
I’ve never lived near one, I have always wanted to try them though
I just love Subway Sandwiches, anyone else huge fans too? Apparently I’m odd according to people for choosing it over other sandwich places, I think its the sweet onion sauce. I just love it!
Pita pit is a close second (even if its pitas and not sandwiches)
The only place I would pick over Subway is Jimmy John’s, but I’ve normally never been close to one 😭
Jimmy Johns is good but they’re really over priced here I’ve noticed. A foot long is nearly 18 dollars for the veggie! Which is sad, back in my home state they were the same price.
I just love Subway Sandwiches, anyone else huge fans too? Apparently I’m odd according to people for choosing it over other sandwich places, I think its the sweet onion sauce. I just love it!
Pita pit is a close second (even if its pitas and not sandwiches)
“van gogh ate yellow paint because-” he was suicidal, karen
“If Van Goah had antidepressants, we wouldn’t have his artwo-” We’d have a lot more of his work, Karen, and who the fuck cares about what we get from him he deserved to be well, karen.
Love van gogh but the whole severed his ear for a lover is historically incorrect. It was a story he told to protect his friend who actually cut his ear off during an argument (though believed to have been an accident). In fact from witnesses of the time writing about it, Gogh attacked his friend first who then used a knife in defense.
But it more so does show that Gogh was mentally ill seeing as he attacked his friend in a sudden unreasonable rage.
As you can see it wont happen now but “over the next couple of weeks”. The reason for that is simple. They want you to forget about that change and leave it on forever allowing them to hide content they deem “unsafe”.
Why turn that setting off?
The so called “Safe mode” will give tumblr full control over what you see and what you dont. They will just use that setting to unofficially ban people off the platform by cutting their followers from the content.
There is absolutely no reason for that setting to even exist! Tumblr displays only posts and reblogs from people you follow so you see only what you want to see.
What if I actually want to filter my tumblr dashboard?
Oh look here is your Safe mode button
Oh wait whats that thing under it? :O
Doesnt that make you wonder why that Safe mode button exists in the first place when you can just write tags in that menu? Tumblr just wants to gain full control over your dashboard.
If you are in tumblr just for porn then make sure to disable Safe mode once it’s out!!!
Even 2d/3d porn will most likely get censored
Haha this is absolutely NOT JUST FOR NSFW STUFF.
I have several tumblr blogs. One for fan art, one for school work, etc.
And on all of them I’ve had comics, illustrations, other artwork, hell YOU NAME IT, flagged RANDOMLY, without ANY NOTICE as NSFW. Costing an artist like me both exposure and money.
So please, review your safe mode to make sure that tumblr isn’t controlling what you are seeing on your dash.
Thank you.
on my stim blog I had random stimboards censored, on this account I’ve had random spells censored; turn off safe mode if you are able to because it really censors just everything
Reiki is a traditional Japanese energy therapy that uses spiritual energy to help balance and heal the body. It is good for a huge number of things (though some energies like void and possibly death energies do clash with Reiki); it can help stimulate healing and balance on all levels.
In my Reiki healing sessions I will assess your energy systems giving you a detailed account of what is going on in each area, as well as allowing my empathic abilities to give me greater insights. I will let you know if I find any troubling areas; such as parasites, blockages, holes or tears, etc within your energy body. If I do find any troubling things I will talk with you to create a game plan for your healing session. (I have experience with energetic surgery if the need arises.) Then I will either implement the plan we create or I will give you an overall Reiki healing session.
$35 for 30 mins
$50 for 45 mins
$65 for 60 mins
$95 for 90 mins
I also offer 2 additional services you can add to your Reiki Session for $5:
*Crystal Grid
I will create a crystal grid tailored to your healing session which will enhance the energy sent to you in your session.
*Tarot Reading
3 card tarot reading to give us better insight into your situation.
Energy Reading $15
I offer a general energy reading of your 7 major energy centers. This does not include any healing services, this is only an overview of what is going on in your energy body at this moment in time.
Tarot Reading $1 per card
You can choose from my Shadowscapes Tarot deck, Ostara Tarot deck, Dragonfae Oracle deck, or The Crystal Wisdom Healing Oracle deck.
I retain the ability to decline to read for any question that I am uncomfortable about.
Rune Reading $1 per rune
Again as above, I retain the ability to decline to read for any question that I am uncomfortable about.
If anyone would like to talk about learning Reiki please contact me for pricing regarding Reiki 1, Reiki 2, and Reiki 3 levels. I am a Reiki master who has been practicing Reiki for almost 4 years and has been a Reiki Master for over a year and half with multiple level attunements and students.
I swear to god this Soviet cartoon is the single most adorable thing in existence. Do yourself a favor and check out “A Kitten Named Woof” (Котенок по имени Гав), you won’t regret it.
my professor spent our entire seminar whining about how there’s too many girls in our group and not enough boys. he was like “i’m not saying women can’t be good surgeons but we need more men” no, we don’t. men suck. deal with it.
CRY ALL YOU FUCKING WANT YOUR TEARS DON’T MEAN SHIT TO ME. YOUR TEARS MEAN DICK TO ME JUST SO YOU KNOW
Leave the water on a sunny windowsill or outside, preferably in direct sunlight. Sunrise, 9 am, 12 pm, and 3 pm are perfect times for this, or you can leave it from sunrise to sunset. You can also add herbs and flowers to it as well (lemon peels, orange peels, marigolds, chamomile, cinnamon, sunflower, etc.) Or charge it with some stones (like sunstone, orange calcite, citrine, tigers eye, goldstone or carnelian), but please don’t put these stones in the water. You can also make a sun tea with sun water for a very potent solar spell.
theres a service called imperfect produce that delivers boxes of weirdly shaped/sized produce. its usually like $15+s/h for a thing, which is still cheap-esque, i guess, but the first box ships for free and if you use my invite code we both get $10 in credit. so, like, stacking that,i got 7 pounds of fruit and a granola bar for $4.29. you can customize them and add/take out stuff a couple days before it ships, and everything i got is in surprisingly good condition? my grapefruits are a little soft and one persimmon had a nick but other than those “oh i better eat these today” fruits its all pristine. nice???
**edit: i’ve seen a bunch of people reblog this with tags saying theyre waiting for a paycheck to look into this, but please take a peek to be sure its in your area before you factor this into your budget! it’s not a shipping thing from some warehouse, its a delivery thing that has local drivers in some US cities. boost for other people sure but id feel horrible if ppl depended on this and it didnt work.
Wish it was a thing in Canada but I’ll reblog for my MURRICN followers,
Sending doxxing and death threats to someone over something as mundane as interaction is scummy. I don’t care what your reason is, harassing and threatening other users over shit like this doesn’t make you a hero. Harassing or threatening anyone in general doesn’t make you a hero.
ok can we agree that the WORST feeling is when you’re just sitting around consciously procrastinating and you’re just overly aware that each second that passes is more time wasted and you like watch hours pass and you’re STILL procrastinating and you CANT STOP and your panicked brain is trapped inside a body that refuses to be productive and inside you’re screaming but outwardly you’re just eating chips
i understand that my friends don’t wanna talk every day. i understand that my s/o doesn’t wanna be lovey dovey and super indulgent every day. lots of people need rest from performative emotions. all people need rest in general! it’s okay!! it doesn’t mean they don’t love me!! it’s not a judgement or punishment!! they deserve to take their rest, and they deserve for me to treat their needs with respect!
A perfect balance of extremely impressive and completely ridiculous.
Apple trees are DETERMINED. My parents planted a twig of an apple tree, and that first year it grew one apple. And the whole thing was bent over from the weight of it. It had one job and by God it was gonna do it.
– Unable to eat properly, your health and physical well-being suffers significantly and this shortens your life over time. If you’re like me and have weak jaws, you’ll likely not be able to chew well; you’re going to be swallowing lumps of things, which is uncomfortable, gross, and unhealthy.
-Eating can be very painful, to the point you’re going to be eating soup, mashed potatoes, or cream of wheat for at least a few meals.
-Self-confidence tanks, and so can your mental health; this has really f*cked me up, leaving me intensely depressed to the point where I’ve pretty much cried for entire days, not to mention trying to adjust to this nightmare that has become my life.
– Dentures generally need to be pasted into your mouth (the paste doesn’t usually last that well, and isn’t a fix-all. It also tastes pretty foul.) and tend to cause anything from mild discomfort to bad pain.
– You don’t get to eat anything sticky, chewy, etc.; no more toffee, gum, unprocessed meat, salad (yes, even things like lettuce and spinach are VERY difficult to eat. And, forget fresh fruit and veggies. Too firm,
– No biting with your front teeth.
– There is no real ‘resting place’ for your lower jaw – it’s uncomfortable and even painful to have your gums pressed together, and letting your lower jaw relax and ‘hang’ is almost as bad.
– Have you heard someone speak without teeth? You’re liable to repeat things A LOT and feel self-conscious and stupid.
-People will shun you, or give you repulsed looks.
-Try looking for work when you look like I do, all gums and no teeth. No way you’re getting an interview or a call back.
Not to mention that your JAWS SHRINK and make it even more difficult to eat/speak and are prone to FRACTURING.
That’s why I am on my knees, begging and praying for the donations I so desperately need to replace my teeth with implants.
Implants act like REAL TEETH and I could eat/speak as before and my jaws would stop shrinking. But, I live in poverty and am disabled. I can’t afford it alone. I’m scared this is going to be the end of me.
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